A 27-year-old former gay escort who claims to have engaged in homosexual acts with over 150 men has switched after going celibate for a year.
Speaking with The Mirror, Dominic Hilton says he came out as gay to his family at age 14 and lived that lifestyle well into his 20’s, believing he would one day tie the knot with another man. Between the ages of 18 and 19, he worked as a male escort until eventually transitioning into long-term relationships with other men. On Christmas Day in 2017, however, Hilton decided to go celibate for up to a year, which yielded some rather unexpected results: he likes women, and not in a bisexual way; literally, he no longer desires men.
“Sex is always something I enjoyed, but this past year, that sexual attraction to men has just gone,” he told The Mirror. “If you’d have asked me in the past if a person can change their sexuality, I’d have said no – but I’m living proof that you can.”
Dominic Hilton does not describe his transition as an overnight switch, but rather as a gradual change. He had only a “couple casual flings with girls” before coming out to his parents, but has only dated men.
“It was a gradual thing – not like someone flicked a switch and I was straight – but now I am actively seeking a girl to settle down with,” he said. “I’ve had sex with men, but not women, so want to find an open-minded girl I can lose my virginity to.”
Dominic decided to go celibate after reading up on how it helped people better their self-esteem and lessen their anxieties. He thought it would be a good method to help overcome heartbreak instead of going on the rebound.
“To get over someone, a lot of people go and get under someone else, but I didn’t want to do that,” he said. “I started reading up on celibacy and saw people talk about how it had helped their self-esteem, lessened their anxieties, given them more energy and generally taught them more about who they were.”
“At that point, I was still feeling down about my break up, so I just wanted to do something to make me happy,” he continued. “I never imagined celibacy would change my life as much as it has.”
After a few months into the celibate life, Dominic’s urge for sex began to wane and he found the experience wholly liberating since he finally had time to focus on himself. “It was really liberating not having anything to commit to,” he said. “Taking myself away from all that meant that the only person I needed approval from was me.
“There was no worrying about what to wear, whether dates would go well and what it meant if you hadn’t heard from them,” he continued. “In the past, I struggled with anxiety, which was what inspired me to go into mental health work, but being celibate meant I wasn’t looking to impress anyone – I was putting myself first and getting to know myself in a different way, which worked wonders for my anxiety.”
The bigger change – the sexual switch – happened gradually until Dominic suddenly realized he no longer had the taste for men.
“My male friend and I were on holiday in Alicante, Spain in October, and where I’d usually be chatting about guys we could see, and if I thought they were attractive, I just couldn’t join in,” he said.”Then my friend turned to me and said, ‘You really are straight, aren’t you?’”
At this point, Dominic thought that perhaps he was bisexual, but his sudden distaste for male sex dashed that. He just no longer wanted men and only wanted women.
“I’d been wondering if perhaps I was bisexual, and attracted to both men and women, but now, I just don’t find men attractive anymore. I have no intention of sleeping with a man again,” he said. “Telling everyone I was straight was like coming out all over again, but my loved ones were supportive and just want me to be happy.”
The change has been profound. Not only does Dominic like women, but his whole manner of life has changed, from the way he dresses to his mannerisms.
“Before, I was quite camp, whereas I’m not now. Growing up, I loved dressing in makeup like Boy George, but these days, I’m always in tracksuits,” he said.
What’s particularly unique about Dominic’s switch, as opposed to other famous cases like Michael Glatze, is that religion did not serve as the impetus. In fact, Dominic lives a fairly secular life by using Tinder to find dates and prefers “pierced, tattooed, edgy girls.” Not all of the transition has been exactly easy. For instance, potential girlfriends have a hard time accepting his past, believing that his foray into the hetero life is just a phase. Dominic wishes to assure them, however, that his newfound love for women is anything but a phase.
“A lot of people don’t understand it, and think that I am gay but this is a phase,” he said. “I have no doubt that I am straight though.”
To anyone feeling lost in their life, Dominic recommends they take up celibacy.
“I would recommend celibacy to anyone feeling a little lost in life,” he said. “Even if you don’t go a whole year, just take some time and focus on yourself – you may be surprised at what you learn.”